Nowadays, people are obsessed about being fair in all their dealings. I am not saying it is not right because it is. The question that bothers me is that, in this day and age, is being fair enough?
When I first joined our business, I was astounded at the salary given to our employees. They were way more than the minimum wage. Coming from the corporate world where everyone is asked to look for ways to save money for the company, I told my father that we can lower down the salary into the required minimum wage based on our city law and get bigger profit. It is still fair, right? But he vetoed me. He said that these people deserve what they were getting. My father was not just being fair, he was also being generous. Until now, our business’ biggest expense is our employees but they also are part of the business’ success so I am no longer complaining. In fact, I appreciate the lesson that was given to me. Being fair is good. But being generous, is a lot better.
We had misfortunes of having our cars “carnapped”, too. Carnap is a term used in the Philippines for stealing vehicles. One person rented a car and actually brought it to Mindanao without the intention of returning it. The Highway Patrol Group were able to recover the car and my father had to fly to Mindanao to identify the car and to bring the people who stole the car back to our city so he can file charges. It was a long trip via land and sea to bring the car from Mindanao back to our city and during that time, the women who were inside the vehicle already smelled and were uncomfortable because they did not have change of clothes. Being fair would have been my father just letting them suffer for what they did. But gracious man that he is, he actually bought them clothes. Yes, the same women who stole his car.
I have hundreds of stories like these so you know that I grew up with very generous parents. They were not rich but they always give more than what is fair.
My generosity has always been questioned. People ask, why do you like giving gifts to others when they don’t even give gifts to you? My answer is always: Why not? Giving gifts to others makes ME happy. I know it makes them happy too but it makes ME happier so in a way I am doing it for myself and not for them to return the favor. Being fair would mean giving others the same amount of gift they give to me. But being gracious means not caring what I receive but caring more about what I give.
So if you ask me, is being fair enough? No. Not at all.
You will not touch people’s lives by being fair. You will touch lives and inspire others, however, by being gracious, by being compassionate, by being generous.
And what good life is if you don’t inspire others or you don’t make them happy? What kind of life is that? And who would want to live a life like that?
The easiest way to make people happy and make yourself happy in return is to always, always give them more than what you think they deserve. Regardless of the situation.
So starting now, don’t always think about being fair. Think about being gracious, generous, and compassionate.
Then I promise you, the world will just find ways to reward you.